We live in a culture that often times tells us to “stay on course” “just go with the flow” “get a good job with benefits” “don’t take too many risks.” However, I have found that this does not always translate to what I consider success, and often times leads to a mediocre life. I for one do not want to look back and say my life was ok.
I want to look at my life and say I loved every day I was alive. I want my children to be inspired to live their own version of a successful life and I’m willing to bet you want the same. For me success is being the best husband, father, and friend I can. It’s making time to enjoy the small things in life, and living every moment to the fullest. Of course it also entails killing myself on a regular basis through my CrossFit WOD, but that only helps me achieve my success.
Whether you want to be a better spouse, father, mother, son, daughter, athlete, or lover of life; here is a list of 6 things that can help you reach your goal.
1. Don’t Resent Other People’s Success
Watching a co-worker receive a promotion or hearing a friend talk about her achievements can stir up feelings of envy. But resenting other people’s success will only interfere with your ability to reach your own goals. When you’re secure in our own definition of success, you’ll stop envying other people for obtaining their goals and you’ll be committed to reaching your dreams.
2. Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
We make dozens — if not hundreds — of choices every day and with very little time devoted to considering the risks we’re taking. Whether we choose to wear a helmet on a bike ride or we decide to take out a mortgage, we often base our choices on our emotions, not the true level of risk. Making decisions based on your level of fear isn’t an accurate way to calculate risk. Emotions are often irrational and unreliable. You don’t get to be extraordinary without taking risks, and learning how to accurately calculate risk will ensure you’re making the best choices.
3. Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
It’d be nice to learn enough from each mistake that we’d be guaranteed to never repeat that same mistake twice. But the reality is that we’re prone to repeat the same mistakes sometimes. Learning from our mistakes requires humility and a willingness to look for new strategies to become better. Mentally strong people don’t hide their mistakes or make excuses for them, instead they use them as opportunities for self-growth.
4. Never Give Up After Failure
It’s normal to feel embarrassed, discouraged, and downright defeated when your first attempts don’t work. From a young age, we’re often taught that failure is bad, but it’s nearly impossible to succeed if you never fail. Mentally strong people view failure as proof that they’re pushing themselves to the limits in their efforts to reach their full potential.
5. The World Does NOT Owe You Anything
It’s easy to get caught up in feeling a sense of entitlement. But waiting for the world — or the people in it — to give you what you think we’re owed isn’t a helpful life strategy. If you’re busy trying to take what you think you deserve, you won’t have any time to focus on all that you have to give. And everyone has gifts that can be shared, regardless of whether they’ve gotten a “fair deal” in life.
6. Never Expect Immediate Results
Wouldn’t it be nice if everything in life could happen at the touch of a button? We often grow so accustomed to our “no lines, no waiting” world, that our brains begin to believe that everything should happen instantaneously. But self-growth develops at more of a snail’s pace, rather than at lightning speed. Whether you’re trying to lose weight or develop a more gracious attitude, slow and steady wins the race and expecting immediate results will only lead to disappointment.
Let today be the day you take control of your life and start to build your own version of success.
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